There is a lot of information surrounding how to get your girlfriend back on the internet and other forms of media such as books and magazines. Unfortunately, some of these sources contain a lot misleading information which tends to exacerbate your current situation rather than helping you out of it. Getting your ex girlfriend back involves a slow process and doing a number of things appropriately. Your ex might still be in love in you and might even want to get back together straight away, but this is not the best route to follow. If you want her back, you want to have her for good. It is then imperative that you have a long-term relationship plan in place, to guarantee success and avoid past mistakes. Here are five killer ways of how to get your girlfriend back after a break up:
# 1 – Do not Contact her immediately after a break up:
Avoid any form of communication with your ex-girlfriend right after a break up. Give them ample time to recollect their thoughts. Then, write her a brief text message or an email and apologize for whatever happened between the two of you. Do not call her. If she texts you back, do not ask her out for a date yet. Keep exchanging texts for one or two weeks, then casually invite her to accompany you to lunch at a restaurant in town. Lunch dates are a bit more relaxed and less demanding than dinner dates, so avoid dinner at all costs. Make things comfortable and you will not come across as needy or obsessed with her.
# 2 – Arrange for scenarios whereby you will ‘accidentally’ bump into each other:
If she does not respond to your texts or does not want to meet up with you, then this tactic comes to play. You have to realize that if the two of you do not see each other again, there is absolutely no chance of you getting back together. However, ensure that you do this in moderation and make everything appear natural and coincidental. Otherwise, she will think that you are a stalker and this will ruin any chances of you getting back together. By ‘accidentally’ bumping into her, you will make her believe that fate is bringing the two of you together and that you were meant for each other.
# 3 – Have an attractive lifestyle
Every time she gets to see you, ensure that you appear to her like someone who is totally having the time of his life. Dress well, look happy and get a new hobby. You may go out swimming with dolphins or scuba diving and then post these pictures on Facebook. Use Facebook and other social networking sites wisely; do not post too much of these pictures on these sites. You will give her an upper hand if she realizes that they are aimed at her.
# 4 – Start dating other women
This is one of the most effective ways of getting your girlfriend back, especially if you start dating other attractive girls. Biologically, women have the tendency to have some attraction towards men ‘preselected’ by other quality women. This also triggers her jealous reactions and will consider having you back.
Alternatively, get at least three new female friends and hang out with them often. These methods may seem counterintuitive but by doing them, it shows your ex girlfriend that you are secure and in control of your feelings. It also proves to her that other people find you attractive.
# 5 – Be a good friend to your ex-girlfriend
If the above techniques fail to work and still do not want to let go of her, try making friends with her and maintain a good friendly relationship. However, do not let her know that you still have feelings for her. Keep your distance for the friendship to seem casual. Afterward, go back to the attraction phase and display your alpha male traits: show confidence, humor and be a challenge.
If you are successful in getting her back, you will have to sit down and talk about the issues that resulted into the break-up. There is no sense in hastily going back into a relationship, then break up over the same things a few months down the line.